Use this Vocal Profile when you want to communicate compassion, forgiveness, and kindness, especially when someone has hurt you.

These days, it seems like I can hardly turn on the TV or check in on social media without being blasted by media and messaging that’s harmful—intentionally and unintentionally. We hear so much violence, fear, hate and separation these days.

The voices in those ads, clips, and videos are saying things that upset, offend, and trigger us emotionally.

It seems that, instead of using the power of their voice to heal, unite, or inspire, these individuals are choosing to harm, divide, and diminish.

Which has me wondering…

How do we move forward in this type of environment?
How can we be a voice for positivity and unity?

I believe it would benefit us all to learn how to communicate a very special type of sound, that I want to share with you today.

When you can effectively make these sounds in your speeches and interactions, they’ll become an effective tool for responding to the negative and harmful voices people might use around you.

No, I’m not going to show you how to use your voice to hurt others more than they’ve hurt you.

What I’m going to teach you is more powerful than that.

It’s also more productive, both for you and for everyone who hears you.

Today, I want to share with you the Vocal Profile for Forgiveness.

Vocal Profile for Forgiveness

(If you need a quick refresher, remember that a “Vocal Profile” is like a recipe for how to mix the different components of voice, which I call the “Building Blocks of Voice.” The Building Blocks—pitch, pace, tone, melody, and volume—are like the ingredients and the “Vocal Profile” is like a cake, the outcome you get when you mix all the different ingredients together in a certain way.)

Pitch – 6 –

Forgiveness needs to be a little on the higher side of the pitch range. You want to give the impression that you’re happy to connect with them in a new and better way, forgetting about past mistakes. Being around a 6 on the pitch scale shows that you are so glad to be moving in a new happy, positive place in your relationship and understanding of each other.

Pace – 4 –

I want you to slow your pace down to about a 4, because I want your listeners to feel that you’re not rushing to accept something you’re not really content with. The slower pitch signals that you’ve thought about forgiving them, weighed all the options, given yourself time to make the right decision, and then told them they’re forgiven, calmly and thoughtfully.

Tone – 5 –

Your tone should be right in the middle of the scale.

You want to sound edgy and strong about your decision and the possibilities that may come from it, but you also want to have enough air mixed in to cushion the sound and make it more beautiful, because forgiveness is a beautiful thing. It comes from the heart with a promise that there are better times ahead, and that someone cares enough about them to forgive. It makes both parties involved feel lovely.

Melody – 4 –

I want you to use some melody, but not so much that you sound goofy. If you’re jumping all over the place with melody, it can sound like you’re too immature to know what forgiveness is, or that you haven’t put enough thought into your decision. Some melody makes you sound happy, and you are, but too much is just distracting and discrediting.

Volume – 5 –

Stay about a 4 on the Volume scale. If you are any softer than that, you won’t come across as committed to your choice of forgiveness. It takes a strong person to forgive. Weak people forgive less easily, because they’re too afraid of being hurt again, too distrustful that they’ll be strong enough to handle it emotionally.

A 5 on the melody scale tells people that you are committed, strong and able to take the good and the bad that occurs on the way towards an eventual better, fulfilling place.

Why You Need to Learn and Apply This Vocal Profile, Today

Whether your listener is a stranger, a colleague, or a loved one, being able to accurately express forgiveness is a gift you can give again and again, without ever losing its powers.

When you can master the sounds of forgiveness, you can communicate compassion and kindness in the face of wrongdoing. That way, the hurt and pain someone passed on to you doesn’t get shuffled forward. Instead, you stop it dead in its tracks.

The sounds of forgiveness are mighty enough to turn strangers into companions, unite broken families, and restore relationships.

Try it for yourself, and watch how your voice can become an instrument for good in the world.

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